Understanding Low Self- Esteem In Your Teenagers.
As parents and caregivers, we want our teenagers to feel confident about who and what they stand for.
We teach them principles, beliefs, and ideologies, hoping it will help build their confidence and worth.
As they grow older, there will be challenges and doubts that will stir their beliefs and self-worth. Affirmations like “I can’t do this,” “I’m not wanted,” and “I’m never good enough” will be said often, and if there is no one to encourage or listen to them, these affirmations will become their realities leading to low self-esteem.
What Is Self-Esteem?
It can be defined as how much you like and appreciate yourself regardless of the circumstances.
It also can be described as a person’s overall sense of self-value and worth.
Self Esteem can be defined by many factors, which include:
- Feeling of security
Teenagers with low self-esteem always feel less sure of their abilities, ideologies, and beliefs.
They may not feel motivated to try new activities because they don’t believe they can achieve their goals.
If low esteem isn’t recognized, it could lead to the following problems:
- Difficulties in making friends
- Low motivation
- Having relationship issues
- Taking unprescribed drugs to feel better
- Poor body image
Causes Of Low- Self Esteem
Some factors could have an impact on your teenager’s esteem. They may seem like part of growing up but don’t dismiss them.
The causes include:
- Trauma or abuse
- Unsupportive parents
- Poor performance at school
Signs Of Low Self Esteem
The following are signs that could tell if your child has low self-esteem:
- Feeling unloved and unwanted
- Blaming others for their mistakes
- Lack of control
- Trying to please others
- Low self-confidence
- Worry and self-doubt
- Always trying to please others
- Negative self talk
- Inability to accept positive compliments
- Fear of failure
- Avoiding new hobbies
- Inability to cope with an average level of frustration
- Negative social criticism
Tips To Help Teenagers Build Their Self Esteem
- Focus On Self Compassion:
Teach your teen to treat themselves with love, kindness, openness, and acceptance.
When they fall or make mistakes, tell them it’s alright to do so.
They shouldn’t blame but forgive themselves and move on by accepting and learning from it.
- Embrace Growth:
Always remind your teens that their abilities aren’t fixed or inflexible. Let them know there is always room for improvement and growth. They can be happy and be the best version of themselves.
- Be their Support System And Challenge them:
When things get overwhelming for them, be there to listen, encourage and motivate them.
Also, please help them get involved in activities that will boost their self-confidence. Be their cheerleader when they fail and succeed while participating in the chosen activity.
- Love Unconditionally:
Remember that your love doesn’t depend on their achievements, goals, performances, behaviors, or choices but because they are enough, and you will always love them.